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Updated: Mar 19, 2022


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As the Covid-19 pandemic has grown and intensified across the globe, literally touching every corner of the earth, so has the debate over how to counter its spread. We, as a global community, have spent the last few years debating and discussing when to vaccinate, how many vaccinations are necessary, at what age people should be vaccinated, should children be vaccinated, what are the short and long-term risks of vaccination versus non-vaccination, when to mask, when to socially distance, what social distance is required, etc., etc., etc.. This topic has dominated the news, the internet, our social discourse and daily conversations. Is it any wonder that this debate has now landed in the courts across the United States and beyond?

This surge in Covid-19 related litigation is especially dramatic in the context of Divorce and Family Law cases dealing with the custody and visitation of children between warring parents. Can a family law court order a parent or child be vaccinated? Can a court order a change in custody based upon the vaccination or non-vaccination status of a parent. Can the court suspend a parent’s visitation with the child unless and until he or she is vaccinated? How does a Judge (a person trained in the field of law not medicine) “follow the science” when it is ever changing and constantly debated? Is expert testimony required? The questions are as endless as the cases which have presented such issues.


As one reviews the landscape of court decisions from across the country and beyond one common principle is discernible. In virtually every case presented the court has lined up in favor of vaccination. What changes from case to case is the context within which the court makes its determination.

Cases approving the vaccination of the child


For example, one broad category is those cases where a judge is asked to order the child’s Covid-19 vaccination. In upstate New York a judge ruled in favor of a mother’s application to vaccinate her 11 year old daughter, in the face of opposition by the father, a science professor at Rochester Institute of Technology , directing that the child to be vaccinated “immediately.”


Similarly, in Alberta, Canada the court ruled that the mother was authorized to vaccinate her 10 and 12 year old children over the father’s strong anti-vaxx objections. Indeed, the court went even further. The court also directed that the father was no longer permitted to discuss COVID-19 vaccines, or the pandemic in general, with his children, nor was he permitted to supply them with social media or other information about the virus.


A Quebec Superior Court Justice ruled that a 12-year boy in the Montreal suburb of Longueuil had the right to get his two doses of the vaccine, despite opposition from his father, who, according to the court, failed to present any evidence in court that the shots would be dangerous.

Cases where the Court directs the parent to be vaccinated


While there have been a number of cases where the court has directed the child to be vaccinated, the question of whether the judge has the authority to direct a parent be vaccinated is far from clear. Even the judge in the most pro-vaxx decision handed down so far questioned his legal right to make such a determination, saying "requiring an adult to be vaccinated... would stretch the authority of a matrimonial court to unprecedented lengths."


However, some judges have actually done so. Rebecca Firlit told The Chicago Tribune that she and her ex-husband, Matthew Duiven, were in a child support hearing when Judge James Shapiro asked if she’d been vaccinated. Firlit said she had not, because other vaccines made her sick and a doctor recommended that she not get vaccinated. Judge Shapiro then immediately suspended her parenting time with her 11-year-old son until she provided proof of vaccination. He later vacated his decision not because he believed himself to be wrong but because judges are not allowed to summarily change custody without a hearing.


Similarly, constitutional concerns did not stop a judge in Liberty County, Texas, from making such a direction. In the case the Judge’s handwritten order dated 5/10/21 says "both parents are to get vaccinated for COVID by end of this week." The father failed to show for his vaccination by the deadline but was still allowed to see the children even while not vaccinated. It appears that the court’s order was never enforced

Cases where visitation is suspended until a parent is vaccinated or tested


Apart from directing that a parent be vaccinated – as indicated above a direction of dubious validity- the Court has presented the unvaccinated parent with an alternate Hobsian choice - vaccinate or have your access to the children suspended or altered.


In New York a judge suspended a father's visitation until he was vaccinated or was tested on a regular basis timed to the proposed visitation with the 3 year old child. While the father is appealing the order he is seeing his children based upon a regular testing protocol.


Similarly, a judge in Los Angeles, California ordered a father to either get vaccinated or provide a statement from a medical doctor explaining why he couldn't. His access with the children was suspended until he complied with these directives.


In New Brunswick, Canada a divorced father has lost his right to see his three children in person after refusing to get the COVID vaccine particularly where one of the children, age 10, was immunocompromised. Nevertheless, the Court’s ban directed him to stay away from all three of his children.

Cases where a change of custody is requested based upon a parent's vaccination status


Finally, the court has the authority to change custody from one parent to another based upon the vaccination status of the parties. For example, in a New York case from Rockland County the Judge turned aside a father's request for a change of custody based upon the mother's expressed intent to vaccinate the children, ages 12 and 14, finding that there was insufficient evidence to upset the mother's previously exercised final decision-making authority.


In another New York case, B.S. v. A.S. the court found that the parents' disagreement over the vaccination of their children was sufficient to trigger a hearing to change the parties' joint custody arrangement to sole custody. Wisely, the parties elected to settle their case before the hearing.

Cases where parents exercise self-help


Unfortunately, there are times when parents take the law into their own hands. In one Canadian case the court overruled the father’s objections to vaccination and directed the mother to vaccinate the child. In response the father fled with his daughter, age 11. The Royal Canadian Mounted Police issued a warrant for his arrest when the father failed to return the child following a scheduled visit. The father and child are still missing.


Finally, there have been cases when a parent simply brings the child to a doctor for a vaccination without the other parent‘s knowledge or consent. Several court decisions in New York have held that a parent who does so cannot be held in contempt of court or sanctioned since the other parent cannot show that they were prejudiced by this act.


Conclusion


With the recent spike in serious Covid-19 cases among children, largely attributable to the omicron variant, there will be an explosion of cases dealing with this issue. Not only will judges be sorely tested to decide these difficult, emotional yet highly significant cases but they will also be tasked with the responsibility of sorting out the parents who have legitimate good-faith differences about this subject from the parents who are misusing or manufacturing an issue to advance their own personal agendas.



 
 

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Some people find out that the relationship is over directly from the lips of their spouses or significant others. Others find out in unusual and unexpected ways.

A wife found out about her husband’s cheating ways by reading about it in the newspaper. The unidentified wife was perusing the “birth announcements” section of the newspaper when she came across a posting that her husband, who had an unusual name, had just had a baby boy with another woman.

Her shock was made even worse when she discovered that the husband and this woman previously had another child together one and one half years earlier. Upon making the discovery the wife put all of the husband’s clothes in garbage bags and dropped them off at the home of his girlfriend.


In another mega-divorce case that is just getting started, Jenny Paulson found out that her billionaire husband of twenty-one years, John Paulson, had filed for divorce by reading about it in the gossip column of the New York Post newspaper. According to sources close to Jenny “she never saw it coming.” This shocking blow was made even worse when a follow up article in the Post appeared the very next day, complete with photos and a detailed bio of John’s new love interest, a 33 year old fitness guru who is half of John’s age. The timing of the back to back articles and the content of the photos (taken months ago) made it clear that that John and his latest flame had been seeing each other for “quite a while”.


Sometimes, you find out about your husband’s cheating ways simply by answering your iPhone. In a New York divorce case, as detailed in the divorce court’s opinion, the unfaithful husband was having sex with his latest paramour when his telephone “accidentally dialed” the wife’s telephone number. His wife heard the whole lurid, passionate episode in “real time”. Of course, unexplained by the parties was how a “butt dial” could have occurred, given the circumstances under which the call was made.


Based upon my many years representing clients in divorce cases I have reached the conclusion that most couples in a divorce case come from one of two perspectives. The one initiating the divorce says it has been “coming for years.” The spouse receiving the “divorce greeting,” says it came “out of nowhere.” What is certain is that the spouse who feels angry and blind-sided by the divorce usually takes a longer and more difficult road to the resolution of the case.

 
 

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The nationwide divorce rate used to be around 50% of all marriages. Given the current pandemic, the divorce rate has begun spiking even higher. Whatever the divorce rate is for first marriages it is even higher for second marriages. Approximately, 60% of second marriages end in divorce. Moreover, approximately 73% of third marriages end in divorce.

The final statistic is reserved for those couples who marry and divorce the same person multiple times. The divorce rate for such “do overs” is off the charts. I actually had one of these vitriolic cases and it went on for over ten years.


Given these statistics it is amazing that people nevertheless continue to dip their toes into the sea of matrimony – multiple times. As a close friend of mine once observed; “Remarriage is the triumph of hope over experience. However, remarriage to the same person is the triumph of delusion over reason.”


As if to prove the latter point, a couple who had been married for over 9 ½ years divorced after a one year period of separation. The wife in the relationship was the one who wanted out but the husband was not so sure.

During their separation both spouses dated other people, a circumstance which made their divorce even more difficult and acrimonious. Collectively, the couple spent approximately $100,000 on their case. They reconciled after the final divorce decree was signed and remarried thereafter. The couple is now in the process of paying off their divorce debt. The wife observed on Tik Tok “our happy ever after is paying off a divorce we never got.


The greater the number of previously unsuccessful marriages, the greater the odds are of a failed future marriage. Take the case of the actress Pamela Anderson who has been married six times to five different men. Along the way she divorced two rock singers (Tommy Lee and Kid Rock), a music producer (Rick Salomon whom she married, divorced, remarried and divorced again), and a film producer (Jon Peters who lasted all of 12 days).

Recently, Pamela commenced her sixth divorce case, the latest in a Canadian court, against her current husband Dan Hayhurst, a 54 year old body-guard and contractor who had been living with her in Vancouver. According to a source close to Anderson, Pamela and Dan were married one year ago following a “pandemic whirlwind” romance that petered out.


Apparently their 24/7 relationship proved to be too much, Again, sources close to Anderson say that Hayhurst was “unkind, unsupportive” and “a d-k” (a divorce industry term that encompasses various forms of misbehavior). During the pandemic they got to know each other better and Anderson came to the conclusion that he was not the one for her. Seventh time's a charm?


Finally, multiple marriages are not confined to hopeless romantics or the naive. I once met a fellow divorce attorney who had been married and divorced four times. As he recounted his failed marriages he revealed that the details of each marriage were somewhat hazy. By way of explanation he said “You see all of my ex-wives have the same first name - Plaintiff.”

 
 
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